The Divorce Was Mutual, But the Blame Wasn't
"When a marriage works, it’s because the woman sacrificed. When it fails, it’s because she didn’t sacrifice enough." Why is it that even when a divorce is mutual, the blame sticks to the woman like glue? Society has a twisted sense of equilibrium the weight of a marriage rests on a woman’s shoulders, but the failure of it? That’s hers alone to carry. A man walks away from a broken marriage with his dignity intact; a woman walks away with her character on trial. It’s not enough that she endured the emotional labor , the compromises, the slow erosion of her sense of self. No, the moment she decides to stop holding together the cracks, she becomes the problem. If he cheated? She should have been more attentive. If he was emotionally distant? She must have been too cold. If he was abusive? Why didn’t she leave sooner? And when she does leave, society doesn’t see it as courage it sees it as failure. A man’s flaws are humanized; a woman’s boundaries are weaponized. If a man decide...